CRAIG's LIST- How can I find a rich husband?... and response
THIS APPEARED ON CRAIG'S LIST - must read down to the reply...
What am I doing wrong?
Okay, I'm tired of beating around the bush. I'm a beautiful
(spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I'm articulate and classy.
I'm not from New York. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at
least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind
that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don't think
I'm overreaching at all.
Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could
you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around
200 - 250. But that's where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won't get
me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married
to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she's not as pretty as
I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I
get to her level?
Here are my questions specifically:
- Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars,
restaurants, gyms
-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won't hurt my
feelings
-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I'm 25)?
- Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east
side so plain? I've seen really 'plain jane' boring types who have
nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I've seen drop dead
gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What's the story
there?
- Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows - lawyer, investment
banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they
hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
- How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for
MARRIAGE ONLY
Please hold your insults - I'm putting myself out there in an honest
way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front
about it. I wouldn't be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn't
able to match them - in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a
nice home and hearth.
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interests
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THE ANSWER
Dear Pers-431649184:
I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully
about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament.
Firstly, I'm not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your
bill; that is I make more than $500K per year. That said here's how I
see it.
Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a
crappy business deal. Here's why. Cutting through all the B.S., what you
suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring
my money. Fine, simple. But here's the rub, your looks will fade and my
money will likely continue into perpetuity...in fact, it is very likely
that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won't
be getting any more beautiful!
So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning
asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation
accelerates! Let me explain, you're 25 now and will likely stay pretty
hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in
earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy
and hold...hence the rub...marriage. It doesn't make good business sense
to "buy you" (which is what you're asking) so I'd rather lease. In case
you think I'm being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were
to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It's
as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So,
I wonder why a girl as "articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful"
as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to
believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the $500K
hasn't found you, if not only for a tryout.
By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then
we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation.
With all that said, I must say you're going about it the right way.
Classic "pump and dump."
I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of
lease, let me know.
20 comments:
LOved the response and how true his words are! A very smart man, unfortunately ms beauty will likely find some desperate sole she will take to the cleaners. I must say however, the beauty, is at least up front with her motive. $500k minumum....sounds good to me. Worth being unhappy for- absoulutely not!
Hello, Im a married woman who just read your post. First of all let me say WOW.If your such an articulate, intelligent woman wouldnt you realize that money does not make you happy. True happiness is TRUE love. I find it sad that you have a min amount of money a man must make to date them.Your obviously a superficial person. Oh and if your SO "Pretty" why the hell are you posting an add on website? why dont you get your head out of you @$$, go to school, get a degree, and make your own money. Yes i know that does sound difficult doesnt it...but im sure you'll manage. Besides, when your looks fade and your rich husband cheats on you with a much younger prettier girl who was in the same state of mind as you years earlier....your going to have to fall back on something right? RIGHT. And when your looks fade you can bet a rich man will want nothing to do with you. So save your self the trouble. Why not go out looking of love without an income minimum? Think about you..
To paraphrase The Who "Hello I love you, won't you tell me your (bank's) name? Hello, I love you, won't you tell me you net annual income?"
You're just scary, One has to asume that an intelligent, wealthy male would immediately notice that you are a selfish, self centered golddigger.
Anna Nicole aside, of course she had the luck to find someone with a touch of alzhiemers, such tactics don't work.
I know the three things you're looking for in a man, money, old age, and ill health.
You describe yourself as articulate and classy, all I can see is whore.
Actually...Money doesn't buy($$) LOVE,sista...Get a job and live your life,stop relying on these MEN,wake up and realize the Women are out there on the TOP,its 2007!!!!
As for the supposed 'plain women' that married rich, most likely they were born rich too - most rich people don't like to marry those who aren't wealthy themselves. It's a bit of a mystery how someone can call themselves 'classy' and yet need to resort to posting ads on Craig's list.
Seeing as she doesn't seem terribly bright, she'll most likely end up like this money-digging chick who was on Dr. Phil a few years back - with a guy deep in debt who was just pretending to be rich to impress her. If she can't figure out at 25 where rich guys hang out she'll most likely end up with a pretender.
Is this 4 real? Goodness, I can't believe it.
I loved the fact that the response brought in the economical viewpoint into the picture. I hadn't really thought about it in that sense until I read the response, and I have to say, it makes more sense for me, and everyone else (sorry ladies), to agree (and side) with the man responding. For the girl who asked the question: The fact that you have to ask older gold-diggers how they got their "man" in the first place shows that you probablt aren't as "hot" as you think you are. And yes, in five years, you'll be old news and you'll have to deal with mediocre men; whereas rich guys can pretty much always have a young, hot, temptress at their side. Simple facts = simple truths.
-Daily Moose
OK ARE YOU KIDDING ME!! He guys comment is so true...so what you are pretty...there is always someone prettier than you. Also what else do you have to offer other than beauty. with a 1/2 mill he can buy beauty when ever he needs it...so what the Heck does he need you for. Please try to find love, and build a foundation and life with a man that loves you. Love is forever, your rich idea is not. Better yet make your own $500K.
I'm disappointed by all the comments about 30 year olds looking badly and being considered a stock falling. I can name quite a few 30+ women that blow away 20 year old women. In fact, some women become more attractive in their 30's. Look at Demi Moore... she's far more attractive now then in her 20's and she's got a young stud. Also, within your 30's confidence grows and intelligence blows away that deer in headlights look. A 30 year old woman would never be naive or insecure enough to question the world about meeting a millionaire.
Hi there,
I'm a married woman that is reading your post. I agree with you fully.
I'm married to a man who does not even make close to 500k a year (in fact a very far fetch) If you think money cant buy love... well without money there isnt any much love to go about.
My life is pretty much bored, my husband is not at all doting... so talking about true love.. there's nothing much to even discuss.
I've seen women and know some of them that are married to guys who earn to 1 mil a year. They are happy and very very very doted.
Take my mum for example.. my dad make millons a year and my mum..i can say is still having a romantic relationship with my dad.
Well i really do not know why i chose this husband of mine..life is really bad...i have to say i'm unhappy.
I'm still young 25, like u... So i just hope that another prince will come and rescue me away from this unhappy and poor marriage...
All the best to you!
okay- he didn't write this...
this response was written by someone on craiglist, yet he's has posted and claimed it...
much like his reviews of films he has NEVER seen, or his univeristies he has NEVER attended.
I Implore you-
check Kam's bio and explore it-
I'll give $100 to ANYONE who can prove he graduated from anywhere he claimed to...
don't be fooled by this liar.
he has fooled the black community for years - no more.
Hi Susiflusi! The song you were paraphrasing was written by the Doors and not the Who.
On the business marriage issue; I find the response extremely clever, although I would like to stress that if you snore, even 500k per year are definitely NOT enough to keep anyone close to you; at least for the whole of the night.
As for the letter itself, if it had been written as a social study checking whether the feminist movement has left any trace of itself, might find some interesting answers...
Fascinating discussion
Ms PLA and myself are reading this after googling "how to meet a husband". PLA is in a tricky predicament. She is a very attractive, witty, thoughtful person who weighs 54 kg, 171cm, blonde, green eyes ... and her dad owns several gold mines. She is educated, and currently works looking after people who are HIV positive... she is such a good person. Anyoo, the number one problem is that she is attracted to guys who have personality, quirks, etc. So although she has tried to "rescue " several blokes, it has never really worked out. Also, we live in Australia, and we are educated, so that leaves us very few options in our native hunting ground. PLA is looking for a decent human being. she owns her own house, in the middle of the most rapidly growing city in Australia, and doesn't need anyone actually, but she would like someone to spend the rest of her happiness with. If any of you decent , financially independent guys want to take a a punt in Oz please check her out on facebook ... Peita-Lee Ambrose. If you screw her around, I will kill you!!
CHURCH!!
Yeah, well, all these comments confirm it. A lot of you women out there are hoes. I've prayed for you all.
I completely agree with the married woman who is unhappy in her marriage. Marriage and love are wonderful notions indeed, yet the fact that an alliance into a poor economic status tends to erode at the romantic idea that love can conquer all, an assumption that many bloggers here seem to be harboring. There is no need to be preaching from a high horse and putting down the girl who initially started this discussion. Although I believe that she should attempt to earn a stable living on her own and not rely on men, she should not be expected to be the sole support in a family. Money does not make you happy, but it brings you stability and a certain leeway to be romantic (go on dates, do sweet things, basically keep the relationship passionate) instead of slaving to make a living and to keep up with the responsibilities of a family. I don't encourage this whole mentality, yet I think that it is a sore issue that has to be discussed maturely.
P.S. To the ignoramus above me, women are not whores at all. The matter at hand is premised on the transaction of the financial security coming from the man and the comfortable home provided by the woman (because of the extra funds she possesses).
Ouch! A little harsh aren't we? Ok, so she's a bit naive but was there any need to attack her on her supposed looks? Besides, people can and often DO lose their money....
Love is over-rated. Love without money will die in a short time. I agree with the girl. There's nothing wrong with finding a rich man. Feminism is way over-rated. Because their efforts, women suppose to work, have babies, and make more money than men?! What a bad deal the feminism got for women. Men nowadays, at least the American men, are such tragedies. They never financially support their women, and yet, they want them to be "perfect" and "have a career" and all that bull shit. So go girl, good luck finding a real man who can support his family!
I think it's ridiculous that nobody is supporting this girl's efforts. She's being honest about what she wants. She never said she didn't want love or didn't want a good relationship. She simply emphasized that without money, no such thing could occur.
Everyone is passing judgment on her! By doing so, you are imposing your own moral framework (romance=good, materialism=bad). Why don't you write a post about a couple of lower class lover and give her a chance to impose her moral framework on that?
Everyone makes their own choices! To each their own!
Okay... enough said about being young, beautiful, smart enough to think of searching a man of $500k worth....giving this young woman a credit for just looking what she wants....
Hopefully she gets what she wants and get this "gentlemen" who honest commented on her blog about the financial predicament status...
This young lady just need to be ready in case she got what she wants and later is ready to be dump for a another younger and aspiring woman just like hers...
If money is all she wanted, sure, why not, but, she needs to realized its consequenses... it cost too much to take too much and lose too much...
In today's society, women had come a long way....
If this yound lady is smart enough( what she think and some here she was,)then, there are many ways to find money.
Number one: EARN YOUR LIVING - means you have to work. You are not invalid, arent's you? you are not physically handicapped either?
then, you have the brain, the body, and the looks, get a job that pays your profile... a nude dancer? sure.. why not... its a living...a prostiture..hell yeah.. that is what those rich men hires for: temporary pleasures....
now... she mentioned that she knew a girl of not her beauty, and yet marries a rich guy.... and she was curious why she caught a big catch...
DUH!!!!! girl wake up.... look at your heart... what is in her heart may be the one that stands out against you and the motive...
Girl, you get a credit of effort in searching and desiring for a wealthy man, but got an F for being a LOADER...
there's no such free lunch any more..
you need to work harder so you can earn your oen $500k just like that wall street gentlemen...
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